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A man took to Reddit to ask whether his girlfriend has the right to be annoyed after he spent a staggering amount of money on a fancy weekend away with a female friend

A man has divided opinion online after he revealed he spent over £1,000 on a ‘date’ with a female friend.

The anonymous man took to Reddit to ask for advice after his girlfriend took issue with his elaborate plan.

According to the post, the man and his female friend grew up in foster care together and stayed in contact into their adult years.

“The bond I have with her is like nothing I have ever had,” he said.

“But there is no romance here, no matter how many people in our lives have pushed it. That said, we both bought condos in the same building.”

The man went on to say that his friend is “happily married”, and that he’s “good friends” with her husband.

Her spouse, who’s allergic to shellfish, asked him whether he would take her out to eat seafood while he was away, so he made reservations at a really nice restaurant.

“There is also a musical in town I know she wants to see so I got tickets and I got us a hotel room (with two beds) at a nice hotel,” he added.

“We will check out some museums and do a wine tasting the following day.”

The entire weekend set him back $1500 (£1,084), but he claimed he was at a place in his life where he could afford to treat his “cheerleader” who had always believed in him.

However, his girlfriend of six months was less than impressed…. furious even.

“She says I must want something with her to throw this kind of money at her but I just really like treating her,” he explained.

Although he recognised that the arrangement looked a little “suspicious”, he claimed he sees his friend like a sister, and if they were blood-related his girlfriend would not have a problem with their date.

“I do understand that getting a hotel room with a woman looks suspicious, but she in my eyes is a sister and the only family I have. Her husband knows and encourages it. We all interact regularly and he gets our relationship.

“I haven’t even been dating this woman a year, my best friend and I have known each other for over 20 years. I don’t think it is reasonable for her to expect big, expensive dates at this point.

“She is mad that I am spending so much on taking another woman on an extravagant weekend and not her.”

In the comments, users were divided.

While some came to the man’s defence, others thought the date was inappropriate.

One person said: “Quick tip. Start calling her your sister, future issues will be resolved automatically.”

Another wrote: “It sounds like his girlfriend will never be able to compete with that history. It’s a bummer people are calling her jealous, in her shoes I’d feel extremely left out.”

While a third said: “Hmmmm I’m a bit torn on this. Normally I’d blame her for throwing a fit – but it sounds like you may have brought some of this on by getting WAY too detailed with her about your plans? Like it does sound like a great weekend but… you’ve got this woman, you’re with her, she wants more from you, and here you are going into detail about how you’re getting this great hotel and going to this killer restaurant with someone who isn’t her. It’s a bit salt-in-the-wound-y.”

Someone else said: “[Original poster] isn’t doing anything wrong by taking his sister out. However, if I was that girlfriend, I would be upset too. Family is important, but the person you’re dating should be your partner and the most important person in your life. Sure, maybe 6 months is too early to be THAT, but… Why call it a date?”